We decided to have one final couples therapy session around three months after the separation.  Unable to get closure sex, I got closure therapy instead.  Now, this is with our second therapist, Dr. Sandy Peace who is fantastic.  Since she is based in northern California we do our sessions via zoom.  I’m glad we did the session.  It was good for me to hear from someone who knows intimately about Danielle and my situation.  She has been treating us off and on for the past year and a half.  It was important to thank her for how she helped us even if things didn’t ultimately work out.  But there were two things that stuck out with what she said.  She told me that things were over.  I knew it, but it was important for me to hear it from her.  The second thing was that the pain was so fresh for me and that I was at a different place during the process.  Danielle had spent years getting to this point so she has had a chance to gain resolve and the crushing blow that I have felt is different than hers because this journey has taken years for her.  She was ready.  More than ready.  I wasn’t ready.  I’m still not.  But she is and I don’t want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with me.  I’ve let go.  I’m done.   Thank you, Dr. Peace, but I think we’re good for now.  I’m ready to move forward.