Hey, Dr. Dick.  You want to learn about what it makes to be a good couples therapist?  If you do, make an appointment with Dr. Peace.  I only wish we had met Dr. Peace earlier.  I know it wouldn’t have made Danielle not be gay, but we probably would have gotten to where we are now a lot quicker.  I used to think couples therapy was how to make a marriage stronger.  But in our case, it was an exercise in frustration.  Because it wasn’t about getting us stronger, it was about Danielle figuring out what she wanted and I just had to be patient and wait. Wait for her to figure it out.  So why am I here? This is her issue and not mine.  If it’s not our relationship that’s bothering you, why am i here??  Dr. Peace helped me realize that Danielle needed my support.  That’s all.  I may not want to be at therapy, but I wanted to do it for Danielle.  She earned it after being my partner and my fiercest love for twenty-three years.  Dr. Peace also gave me more power about myself.  That I am a great guy with or without Danielle.  That I will do anything in my power to make this marriage work, but I also deserve to be with someone who is actually in love with me.  She reminded me that no matter what happens, I’m giving Danielle a generous gift by sacrificing my needs for my partner.  Not many partners would do that.  I am also the master of my own destiny no matter what Danielle does.  But there are only so many concessions that I can make in a relationship.  We have already been in therapy for this long, when is it time to throw in the towel?  I have to admit that every time we saw Dr. Peace, I got worried and anxious because I thought this may be the day where Danielle would leave me.