There were so many times that I would make excuses for Danielle’s lack of desire for intimacy. 

Oh, she’s just stressed out right now and Dr. Dick told me to give her space so that’s what I’ll do!  FUCK YOU DR. DICK

Oh, her mom is driving her crazy and Dr. Dick told me to give her space so that’s what I’ll do!  FUCK YOU DR. DICK

Oh, she’s just worried about Emily right now and Dr. Dick told me to give her space so that’s what I’ll do!  FUCK YOU DR. DICK

Oh, work is tough right now and Dr. Dick told me to give her space so that’s what I’ll do!  FUCK YOU DR. DICK

Well guess what.  Work is always tough.  Kids are always stressful.  Your mom will always drive you crazy.  You will always have stress in your life.  So you have to make time for me, Danielle.  You had to do this and you didn’t.  Maybe that was a sign to either bring it up a notch or let me go.  I spent four and a half years waiting for you. Acquiescing for you.  Walking on eggshells for you so you can have that fucking space that Dr. Dick thought was so vital to our romance and sex life when it didn’t mean shit.  You have to make me a priority if you want this to work.  Yes, I’m behind Emily on the totem pole, but I’m not behind your mom.  I’m not behind your work.  And I’m not behind your stress.  Yet, you continue to make me last on this list.  In fact, I may be even able to relieve that stress if you’d let me.  Now, I get there was the whole gay thing going on that probably was the main agitator in all of this, and you used all of these other things to make a priority in order to maybe put those feelings on the back burner.  But bottom line.  It wasn’t fair to me.  I deserve better than this.  It hurt me.  It has changed me.  I’m glad you’re finding your peace, but you have brought my life into chaos.  In fact, you’re slowly killing me because you have most likely lowered my life expectancy and probably should go to jail for murder.  Okay, I’m being extreme.  It will get better but right now I’m in the shit.  I’m in the porta-potty deep end right now and there’s still farther to go before I get out.