It was always other people who had marriages that I didn’t want.  Some examples;

Dave was a struggling writer and his wife was a highly successful doctor.  The wife resented Dave for being the primary bread winner and she would consistently attack Dave with condescending remarks and was only staying with him because of their three daughters but primarily because she didn’t want to pay him alimony.

Todd also didn’t make as much as his lawyer wife who wanted what her friends had even though they made a good living.  They hadn’t slept in the same room for years because the wife sleeps in the same bed as their 10-year-old son. 

Todd and Dave are good friends of mine and when I compared my marriage to them, I thought I was golden and that therapy would only make our already good marriage even better.  It was Dave and Todd and their respective wives who needed couples therapy way more than Danielle and I did.  I wasn’t worried and was excited with potentially making my marriage with Danielle even stronger.  I was ready for Dr. Dick.  

Dr. Dick’s name has changed because I wouldn’t want her to sue me or think I think ill of her in any way.  I kind of think she influenced Danielle a bit, but there isn’t proof and blame at this point is pointless. Danielle’s a big girl and I’m a big boy.  Dr. Dick did the best she could have and the only advice that I have is to not stick with a therapist that you’re not happy with.  Get out.  It’s better to get out earlier than later.  I should have gotten out earlier, but ultimately, I don’t think it would have changed the outcome. 

Dr. Dick was a bi-sexual open marriage practicing psychologist in Calabasas, California.  She was nice, professional, and maybe not the best choice of therapists for Danielle and I because she seemed to be pushing the open marriage thing on us a bit and I felt that she was more on Danielle’s side than mine.  That being said, Dr. Dick is a good therapist who didn’t seem right for us but because I wanted Danielle to be happy, I agreed to start going to initially work on my “anger issues” which turned out to not be an issue and ultimately work on our love life and then Danielle’s sexuality.   These are my notes and now added comments from me of our sessions.