Danielle became hypersensitive about many things over therapy and I think some of it was Dr. Dick giving her bad advice.  Here’s a thought, if someone is having issues with their sexuality, maybe that’s what you should address as a therapist and not put the spouse through multiple hoops to jump through and making them think that they’re the problem.  I had to be perfect because if I upset Danielle too much, it may ruin the marriage.  I was on edge because one small move could put us one step closer to divorce.  During sessions, I was super depressed and hopeless, but then when we got home it’s like nothing bad happened at therapy and we’d get along well, snuggle at night, kiss goodnight, and I’d feel hopeful and optimistic again.  Utter confusement* and extremes during our therapy abounded in my brain.  I used to be optimistic.  I used to be hopeful.  Right now, all of that is history.  There was a point when I felt like this couples therapy and Dr. Dick in particular wasn’t helping us and was in fact, hurting us.  One piece of advice I have is that when your instinct is to get a new therapist… GET A NEW THERAPIST! 

*not a word