When I had friends or family separate from loved ones, I called them.  Now, it had to be a certain level of closeness.  For example, when it was a sibling or a friend,  I would definitely call and say something like, “I’ll always be your brother/sister” or “I’ll always be your friend” etc.  As long as there was no abuse involved or bad bad blood, that would be the standard.  To this date, four months into it, I have yet to receive a call from Danielle’s sister or her husband.  I was family with them for over twenty years and nothing.  That hurts.  I called Danielle’s sister, let’s call her Allison and all she did was send me a text back that read: 

“Fuck you, Eric!  You never deserved my sister and you’re such a worse kisser than she is!  Do you mind liking my post on FB?  Thanks!”

Okay, maybe I’m exaggerating slightly.  Here’s the real text:

Hi, thanks for your message.  I’m sorry that you guys are going through this difficult time.  You all have my utmost support and love and I just hope that you and Danielle find the happiness you both deserve.” HEART EMOJI

The Brother in Law didn’t even send a text.  And maybe I shouldn’t expect anything.  Maybe what she did was good enough.  For me, it really isn’t.  I’m not this sensitive and uptight ass, but I deserve better.  I was there for their kids.  I was there for the holidays and every family event.  For what it’s worth, I would have reached out.  Don’t get me wrong, Allison and her husband Randy are great people but again, I deserve better.  Also, one of Danielle’s best friends has yet to call or text me.  I’ve known her for twenty-three years and not even a reach out.  That hurts.  Even just the fake ass phone call jibber-jabber with the “We’ll always be friends” or “You’ll always be my brother-in-law” would have been nice.  Everyone says, we’ll still be close.  We’ll still be a family.  Danielle says we’ll still be close.  We’ll still be a family.  But alas, it’s not the same.  They all say to Danielle, “I’m thinking about you.”, But what about me?  She’s the one putting me and Emily through all this.  Yes, I get that she has to do this, but it doesn’t make me feel better.  And I’m not even going to go into her mom who is more self-absorbed than a sponge. “You’ll always be my son” one day.  “Make sure you keep your accounts safe” the next day to Danielle.  She actually called me and said, “Hi Son in Law or whatever you are now” to me and then laughed thinking that it’s so funny.  I say Hashtag way too soon.