I don’t want to start over.  Dating takes time.  Dating is hard.  Finding someone to date where you  have a strong connection with is extremely hard.  Finding someone to date where you have as strong a connection with as your ex-wife is nearly impossible.  But I have to start over.  I have to search.  I have to try.  I don’t think you wait until you’re ready to date.  You don’t wake up one morning and say, I’m ready now.  I think you date and then one day, you’re ready.   I love this life we created and now you’re blowing it up.  Blowing up is a strong term.  You’re not blowing it up, but you’re slowly burning room by room while I’m still in the house.   This is what it feels like.  I would put out a fire in one room until it was too much and then I’d go into another room and try to make that room work, hoping the flames never got there.  But no matter how nice I made the room look with the hope that you liked it, I would get shot down.